Columns During the pandemic, opinions have escalated and many choose to remain silent in the absence of a human culture of conversation.

Recovery requires a model of calm speaking and means of correction, writes Maaret Kallio.

March at the end of 2020, I wrote in my column as follows: You have inadvertently been on a flight whose landing schedule is not yet known. The journey is becoming throwing.

The corona pandemic had recently struck Finland in all its force with its restrictions and constantly updated news. People had seen a serious government declaring exceptional circumstances and empty toilet paper shelves in shops. Work was canceled, home doors closed and anxiety was palpable.

Published a year and a half ago in my storm flight column I wrote sentences that also coincide with the approaching time of landing: Don’t demand too much of yourself. Traveling in stormy weather burdens just about everyone. Only through responsible actions, warm words, and helpful actions can we strengthen hope.

Landing preparations have progressed and we are returning to the country. But what kind of country and what kind of souvenirs?

Are have been on a long storm flight together, but at the same time quite alone. We have survived this exceptional period in history in different ways. Someone is still extremely scared or exhausted from a long journey. Others have gathered strength and are returning to the crust of the earth with joy. Finally celebration, freedom and encounters!

It is still important to stop in peace to acknowledge that the long journey has left its mark. Pandemic times have inevitably touched our feelings and perceptions of security and insecurity.

Own and loved ones ’reactions in a crisis situation may have come as a surprise. Pressurized situations reveal a lot. An uncontrolled experience of insecurity and danger narrows perspective and taxes wisdom. There may have been aspects or views about yourself or others that are difficult to get along with.

The threat posed by Korona provided a shadow not only through possible infections, but also between views. What one sees as safety and a way out is a red garment for the other that must be fought.

Although the heavy journey would begin to be more in hindsight, it should not be forgotten. An old Finnish proverb – a stick to the eye that remembers the old – does not apply to dealing with difficult events and strong emotions. Rather, it is important to return to the past in peace, with appropriate pieces and with moderation.

Creating your own story and compassionate understanding is central to recovery. Do you remember how you felt at different points in the pandemic? What was perhaps to be overestimated in retrospect and what was too little? What did you adapt surprisingly well to?

Traces of the corona pandemic will be visible to us for a long time, even after the threat recedes. Accumulated mental health problems require time and treatment. Sadness has been biting for a long time, but getting close isn’t uncomplicated nonetheless. Opinions have escalated, and many choose to remain silent in the absence of a human culture of conversation.

Recovery requires a model of calm speaking and means of correction. How could we hear what this was for you? How can I tell how I experienced this? Where was I left too alone and where did I have to take on too much responsibility? What was this for you as a family, a couple, a work community, or living alone?

It’s not just about me or you, but above all about us. Therefore, we should not just ask what happened to you, but what happened to us.

Let’s saythat when returning from long journeys the body often arrives ahead and the soul follows suit. The experience of safety has been hit during a long storm flight. Security is now being built piece by piece back. A calmly reflective leader, supervisor, decision maker, and loved one now have a large order. Children need safe adults and adults like them.

The most important thing is that no one is left alone even during reconstruction. We need common ways to deal with what has happened and hope to trust the future.

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